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What you need to know before working with brands!


“I want to be an influencer that works with brands but no one is reaching out to me as often as I would like.”

“I’m tired of sitting around and waiting for collaborations. I want to take action into my own hands but I just don’t know how”

If you have ever thought, or are currently thinking, something similar to these, you are in the right place.

We all want to know the secrets when it comes to reaching out to brands and getting endless partnerships. Over the past few months I've been fortunate enough to gain experience in this area and I’m about to spill the tea. Now, I’m no “expert” on the topic but I most definitely can not wait to share with you everything that I’ve had to learn the hard way, so that you don’t have to.

First, let’s get something straight. If you are here and you are thinking to yourself:

  • I don't have enough followers to work with brands yet.

  • I don’t think brands would want to work with lil ol’ me.

  • I don't have the skills it takes to pitch to brands.

Write those thoughts down on a piece of paper and set it to flames. THOSE ARE COMPLETE LIES. Your voice matters. Your art matters. Your perspective is a perspective no one else has. Embrace it. Own it. Flawnt it.

I received my first partnership at 3,000 followers and I even know people who have 1,000 followers who work with brands on the daily, so myth busted.

Since there are a lot of tips I can give you when it comes to this topic, I'm going to be splitting this up into two different blog posts:

First, today, I will give you 5 general guidelines to follow when working with brands.

Second, will be exactly how to craft your pitch and what you should say when reaching out to brands. How about you take a quick second to sign up for my newsletter so you don’t miss out on that post! I’ll be right here waiting for you when you come back.

All signed up? Good! Let’s dive right in:

Tip #1: Is this brand in line with the message I am sharing with my followers? Work with brands that you genuinely support or products that you will actually use. The purpose of this is to keep your page as authentic as possible and for you to remain YOU. Once I agreed to do a collaboration with a brand solely because it was paid and I wanted the money. The product wasn’t even something that I would use...ever. Then when I posted my agreed post, it was the worst engagement I had ever received on a collaboration, my followers could tell this wasn’t genuinely me! Stay true to who you are, don’t sell out.

Tip #2: Pay attention to their preferred method of communication! When reaching out to brands check their bio. If they have an email listed always reach out via email. I prefer this because 1. It looks more professional and 2. As your Instagram grows, your DMs grow. Email is the easiest way for me to keep track of my collaborations. 3. If Instagram dies today, you have stocked up on multiple brands emails and can continue to communicate with them. If they don’t reply to your email in a week, you can always send a follow-up through DM.

Tip #3: If you are planning to pitch, don’t ask for free stuff. I'm sure you're thinking “Isn’t that the goal here Millie?" And yes, technically you are correct, most collaborations are in exchange for product. However, that should not be your intent for the collaboration. If you directly say “send me x, y and z” brands can read right through you and will be able to tell that you're Pitch is not genuine. Your intention should be “How can I help this brand?”, “What do I have to offer to them?”. We’ll that more about this in my next blog post…

The goal should not be for selfish gain, but for mutual growth.

Tip #4: Treat yourself as a brand/business. This is very important when it comes to communication and professionalism. We all get those people ‘slidin in the DM’s’ trying to get our attention. “Hey, let’s shoot”, “You’re beautiful. What’s your number?”, “How much for sessions?”. As flattering as they may be, if that person spent a little more time crafting a detailed message, we would probably spend our time to reply. Same goes for brands. They are more likely going to work with an influencer who took the time to write them a professional email rather than the person who DM’d them saying “Love your products. Let’s collab” *insert mic drop*

Tip #5: Engage with them. I have said this before in a previous blog post but here we go again! There’s nothing a brand loves more than a truly dedicated and excited supporter. Follow them, comment on their photos, turn on their post notifications for the time being, etc. Just like your mother/father/teacher taught you growing up: treat others how you want to be treated.

That wraps it up for today folks. Remember, my next post will be about crafting the perfect pitch! I will teach you exactly what to say to get a brands attention and some proper etiquette tips. Sign up for the newsletter so you don’t miss out!

How To Get brands to notice you


Being an influencer on Social Media is becoming so trendy that many brands are seeing the benefit of investing more of their marketing budget toward Micro-Influencers. If you are actively involved with social media and consider yourself an “Influencer” then you have most likely had your share of lavish watch or handcrafted jewelry companies reach out to you for a TFP (trade for post) agreement. The excitement of your first collaboration is a game changer:

“Someone wants to work with lil ol’ me!?”
“I’m finally on the right track”
“This is it. This is my moment and it’s just the beginning”

But after a just few of those social media successes the excitement starts to die down or brands stop reaching out.

If you’re right there with me and have your hand waving in the air yelling “YES, Millie, this is me” (or even if you haven’t experienced a brand collaboration yet) you will definitely relate to my next question:

“How do I get LEGIT brands to reach out to me with quality products?”

Now, if you want me to answer that question honestly…

you don’t.

If that is your main concern, then let me stop you right there…

your mindset is wrong!

Technically we have no control when it comes to what other brands do. We can’t force them to click on our profile and write an email to us - well we COULD but that might lead us to jail and we wouldn’t want that, there’s not many brand collaborations there ;)

HOWEVER, do not worry! There are still components we DO have control of that will make brands want to reach out to us and those components are what we are going to focus on today.

Now first, we need to shift our mindset and adjust the question we’re asking ourselves:

“How can I make my Instagram ‘Brand Friendly’ so when brands come across my page, they will have the urge to reach out to me!?”

Let’s tackle the answer to that question with 5 simple adjustments:

1. Make your profile “clickable
Before a brand even scrolls your feed, what is the first thing they notice? Your username and profile picture! If your photo is a selfie or has a snapchat filter with a username like “milliegirl1234”, I’m sorry, honey, but that is not eye-catching or professional enough to intrigue a prospective brand. Have your profile picture and username match your brand and personality

2. Make your profile public!
I cannot tell you how many times I have had someone reach out to me asking how to get brands to notice them and their account is on private! If your account is on private, no one can see your content, or what you create, or what you are even about etc. If you have reservations about showing certain pictures to just anyone and everyone, then try having a personal account that remains private, and a business account that remains public.

3. Make your bio ABOUT YOU
A lot of people don’t know this but there are websites that act as search engines for brands to easily find influencers by looking at key words from your bio. For example, if a brand is looking for Influencers in “San Diego”, they can search that as a keyword, and if “San Diego” is in your bio, you will pop up on their list of potential Influencers. Your bio has a limited amount of characters so everything a brand should know about you needs to fit in there. Maybe it’s time to put your favorite quote as a caption to a photo instead of taking up important space in your bio.

4. Make your feed/content consistent
This piece of advice is one that I’m sure we have all heard a million times. Although it is the most common advice you hear, it is also the most crucial to growing your account and maintaining a “brand friendly” feed. With consistent coloring and photos focused on your niche, brands will know by a simple glance at your feed what YOU are about, if your style matches their style, and exactly what type of content they can expect from you when working together. Here are two examples:


The first one is an example of an inconsistent feed. Yes, maybe the pictures INDIVIDUALLY look great, but as a whole they are kind of all over the place. Is this a food blogger? Photographer? Just someone posting photos with their friends? It doesn’t give the brand a clear image of what they can expect when working together:

The second feed has consistency in coloring from the highlight covers to each photo. The brand will look at this feed and know exactly what style photo they’ll get in return if they choose to work with them

5. Be on-top of your engagement
It is not about numbers anymore. Well actually, let me rephrase that - It’s not about your number of followers anymore. Brands can spot someone who bought fake followers in a heartbeat, they would rather work with someone who has followers who truly believe in them. What they are looking for are Influencers with a 3%+ engagement. What is engagement? Engagement is the percentage of your followers that are engaging with your photos.
For example, if you have 10,000 followers, on average they are looking for a minimum of 300 likes per post (of course the % of engagement varies per brand).

6. BONUS TIP: Reach out to them!
This is my personal favorite. If you want a brand to notice you, it’s okay to kind of “get in their face”. Turn on their post notifications, engage with their posts, buy their products and post photos using them, tag them etc. Just make sure you don’t come across an overly obsessed and attached ex.

With all that being said, we can make our account as “brand friendly” as possible, but after all those tips are applied, why WAIT for brands to reach out to you? Why not reach out to them yourself!?

Next week in my blog I will be posting some tips when it comes to “How to pitch to brands”. This can seem SUPER intimidating, but after applying my tips, you may just get brand deals left and right.

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Gaining control of your life

Hello everyone,


I’m not sure if you’ve noticed but life is crazy! I’m not just talking about for me, but for you too. Not matter what age you are, now-a-days everything is GO GO GO. It can feel like the situation you are in is out of your hands and there’s nothing you can do to slow down or be in control. Ahhh control...we all want it. Sometimes we don’t even know we want it. Just think about it for a second;

Maybe you want others to be nice to you, or like you? You want time to slow down? How about wanting to go to sleep earlier? Eat healthier? Make more money? Well my friend, if you can relate to any one of those things, or thought of something, you wish to have some control.

Now, let’s explore this idea of control a little shall we?

con·trol (kənˈtrōl/)
1. the power to influence or direct [people's] behavior or the course of events.
1. to exercise restraint or direction over.

If you’re not a master mind controller, you might be thinking “how the heck am I supposed to control other people’s behaviors!?”. This is the part where I tell you the don’t. You can’t control how others treat you. However, aren’t you a person? Do you have the power to influence or direct your behavior? Yes. So I’d like to challenge you with this...

Go grab two pieces of paper. In the middle of one piece of paper write “Things I CAN control”. Then in the middle of the other, write “Things I CAN’T control”. Now begin your lists.

I did this the other day and felt the need to share with you all. I strongly believe this is such an important exercise for everyone to do. Writing down the things I didn’t have control over brought me such a release mentally and so much freedom from those things. Then looking at my list of things that I DO have control of made me realize that there is so much more in life I can do!

So it’s your turn! Write these two lists. How was it? How do you feel? Comment on this post what you thought, I’d love to hear!


How to be successful for real


Success. Everyone wants to obtain this amazing idea of 'success'. By the end of this blog post, not only will have learned how to obtain ultimate success in your life, but you'll be able to answer all the questions on the image of this blog, and it's a lot easier than you think!  First, lets start with the basics, we must have an understanding of what ‘success’ is. Let’s check to see what the super handy dandy says:

noun: the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.

Now let’s take a look at, the top result is:

The product of constantly striving for self improvement.

I was talking to a good friend the other day about this very subject because they are not as successful as they would like to be at this point in their life. So we explored this idea of ‘success’.  I think our society has painted a false picture of what success should look like:

- You should have a really nice car and lots of fancy clothes to be successful.
- You should own a large, expensive house to look successful.
- You should be able to go out to dinner in nice restaurants every night so you’ll look successful.
- You should be able to buy whatever you want - all name brands- to feel successful.

Basically if you make a lot of money and you’re filthy rich THEN you have reached success, right? Not necessarily. Did you notice that none of the above definitions mentioned wealth as the destination of success? Success is about setting personal goals and putting effort and purpose into them to achieve them. Maybe one of your goals is related to money. That’s totally okay. But what if we forgot about everything we think we know about success and defined it as our own? I’ll start:

@modernnmilliee’s definition of (suc·cess)

1. The accomplishment of finding joy in every situation and persevering
2. The ability to surround myself with people who make me happy and support me
3. Finding new ways to better myself (mentally, physically, emotionally, etc.)
4. Doing whatever the heck it is that makes me truly happy without caring what others think

Now it’s your turn!

Take some time right now to write in the comments what your definition of success is.