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Gaining control of your life

Hello everyone,

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I’m not sure if you’ve noticed but life is crazy! I’m not just talking about for me, but for you too. Not matter what age you are, now-a-days everything is GO GO GO. It can feel like the situation you are in is out of your hands and there’s nothing you can do to slow down or be in control. Ahhh control...we all want it. Sometimes we don’t even know we want it. Just think about it for a second;

Maybe you want others to be nice to you, or like you? You want time to slow down? How about wanting to go to sleep earlier? Eat healthier? Make more money? Well my friend, if you can relate to any one of those things, or thought of something, you wish to have some control.

Now, let’s explore this idea of control a little shall we?

con·trol (kənˈtrōl/)
noun
1. the power to influence or direct [people's] behavior or the course of events.
verb
1. to exercise restraint or direction over.

If you’re not a master mind controller, you might be thinking “how the heck am I supposed to control other people’s behaviors!?”. This is the part where I tell you the truth...you don’t. You can’t control how others treat you. However, aren’t you a person? Do you have the power to influence or direct your behavior? Yes. So I’d like to challenge you with this...

Go grab two pieces of paper. In the middle of one piece of paper write “Things I CAN control”. Then in the middle of the other, write “Things I CAN’T control”. Now begin your lists.

I did this the other day and felt the need to share with you all. I strongly believe this is such an important exercise for everyone to do. Writing down the things I didn’t have control over brought me such a release mentally and so much freedom from those things. Then looking at my list of things that I DO have control of made me realize that there is so much more in life I can do!

So it’s your turn! Write these two lists. How was it? How do you feel? Comment on this post what you thought, I’d love to hear!

Xoxo

How to be successful for real

 
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Success. Everyone wants to obtain this amazing idea of 'success'. By the end of this blog post, not only will have learned how to obtain ultimate success in your life, but you'll be able to answer all the questions on the image of this blog, and it's a lot easier than you think!  First, lets start with the basics, we must have an understanding of what ‘success’ is. Let’s check to see what the super handy dandy www.dictionary.com says:

(suc·cess)
noun: the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.

Now let’s take a look at www.urbandictionary.com, the top result is:

The product of constantly striving for self improvement.

I was talking to a good friend the other day about this very subject because they are not as successful as they would like to be at this point in their life. So we explored this idea of ‘success’.  I think our society has painted a false picture of what success should look like:

- You should have a really nice car and lots of fancy clothes to be successful.
- You should own a large, expensive house to look successful.
- You should be able to go out to dinner in nice restaurants every night so you’ll look successful.
- You should be able to buy whatever you want - all name brands- to feel successful.

Basically if you make a lot of money and you’re filthy rich THEN you have reached success, right? Not necessarily. Did you notice that none of the above definitions mentioned wealth as the destination of success? Success is about setting personal goals and putting effort and purpose into them to achieve them. Maybe one of your goals is related to money. That’s totally okay. But what if we forgot about everything we think we know about success and defined it as our own? I’ll start:

@modernnmilliee’s definition of (suc·cess)

1. The accomplishment of finding joy in every situation and persevering
2. The ability to surround myself with people who make me happy and support me
3. Finding new ways to better myself (mentally, physically, emotionally, etc.)
4. Doing whatever the heck it is that makes me truly happy without caring what others think

Now it’s your turn!

Take some time right now to write in the comments what your definition of success is.