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How and Where to Spend the PERFECT Spa Day

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Imagine this:

You are drinking an iced cold Peach Bellini under the warm sun, floating in a cool relaxation pool, after the most luxurious massage you’ve ever experienced. After some time, you exfoliate your skin head to toe with a unique California Red Mud. Now with a gentle breeze brushing against your face, you take a nap on the most comfortable outdoor hammock.

What if I told you that you don’t have to imagine that...this can be your reality! This was my reality just last month. Whether you are looking for a place to relax, celebrate, or just hang out with friends, I have found the perfect hidden gem for you.

Glen Ivy Hot Springs. There is truly no destination quite like it.

For the past 7 years, I’ve been going to this beautiful location for my birthday. After attending so many times, I guess one could say I’m a “professional spa-goer”. I’m here today to teach you the in’s and out’s of how to have the PERFECT spa day at Glen Ivy Hot Springs.


What to bring:

  • The necessities: sunglasses, sunscreen, your favorite summer outfit

  • Flip flops: If you’re attending on a hot summer day, walking around barefoot might not be the best idea (ouch!)

  • Your ID and a debit/credit card: you will be able to put these on file so you don’t have to walk around with your wallet

What not to bring:

  • Extra special valuables. If you have something that is super near and dear to your heart, it would be silly to bring to a spa. Luckily, you have access to free lockers provided to you by Glen Ivy, but if you’re walking around with your phone and you put it down to go swimming, they are not responsible for any lost or stolen items. Bottom line, just be safe and smart!

  • Your favorite bathing suit. Although it’s been said that mud baths don’t stain/ruin swimwear, I have a few bathing suits that would beg to differ.

NEED TO KNOW tips and tricks:

  • Get there early, especially if you’re going during the summer. When Glen Ivy hits capacity they will stop allowing entries (unless you have a pre-scheduled appointment) so it’s best to arrive at least 30 minutes before they open.

  • Book service appointments ahead of time. If you’re wanting to receive a service like a massage, go to the grotto or mani/pedi, call at least a week ahead of time to guarantee your spot. There had been times where I tried to book the day I arrived and everything was already booked up.

  • Go on your birthday! If you attend on your birthday, you get free admission (with a purchase of a service).

  • You don’t really NEED to bring a towel, they have clean towels around every corner. I literally only bring a towel to sit on when I get back to my car because my seats get really hot!

  • If you are someone who never goes anywhere without your favorite water bottle, bring it empty! You are not allowed to bring in your own beverages (unless its a sealed water bottle), but they have chilled water and gatorade like beverages for free throughout the spa so that you can keep your refreshment up all day.

  • Tie your locker key to your suit. After securing your belongings in a locker, you get the key! The orange band it is attached to may fit around your wrist, but it will be too loose to feel secure. Tie it to your swimsuit!

  • Bring a change of clothes. At the end of the day, I always take a shower in their locker rooms (it’s really just an excuse for me to use the body wash which smells AMAZING). They do have a dryer for your bathing suit, but I just prefer to change into fresh clothes after!

There you have it everyone. I hope you find some of these pointe useful for you.
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Follow your joy


How To Get brands to notice you


Being an influencer on Social Media is becoming so trendy that many brands are seeing the benefit of investing more of their marketing budget toward Micro-Influencers. If you are actively involved with social media and consider yourself an “Influencer” then you have most likely had your share of lavish watch or handcrafted jewelry companies reach out to you for a TFP (trade for post) agreement. The excitement of your first collaboration is a game changer:

“Someone wants to work with lil ol’ me!?”
“I’m finally on the right track”
“This is it. This is my moment and it’s just the beginning”

But after a just few of those social media successes the excitement starts to die down or brands stop reaching out.

If you’re right there with me and have your hand waving in the air yelling “YES, Millie, this is me” (or even if you haven’t experienced a brand collaboration yet) you will definitely relate to my next question:

“How do I get LEGIT brands to reach out to me with quality products?”

Now, if you want me to answer that question honestly…

you don’t.

If that is your main concern, then let me stop you right there…

your mindset is wrong!

Technically we have no control when it comes to what other brands do. We can’t force them to click on our profile and write an email to us - well we COULD but that might lead us to jail and we wouldn’t want that, there’s not many brand collaborations there ;)

HOWEVER, do not worry! There are still components we DO have control of that will make brands want to reach out to us and those components are what we are going to focus on today.

Now first, we need to shift our mindset and adjust the question we’re asking ourselves:

“How can I make my Instagram ‘Brand Friendly’ so when brands come across my page, they will have the urge to reach out to me!?”

Let’s tackle the answer to that question with 5 simple adjustments:

1. Make your profile “clickable
Before a brand even scrolls your feed, what is the first thing they notice? Your username and profile picture! If your photo is a selfie or has a snapchat filter with a username like “milliegirl1234”, I’m sorry, honey, but that is not eye-catching or professional enough to intrigue a prospective brand. Have your profile picture and username match your brand and personality

2. Make your profile public!
I cannot tell you how many times I have had someone reach out to me asking how to get brands to notice them and their account is on private! If your account is on private, no one can see your content, or what you create, or what you are even about etc. If you have reservations about showing certain pictures to just anyone and everyone, then try having a personal account that remains private, and a business account that remains public.

3. Make your bio ABOUT YOU
A lot of people don’t know this but there are websites that act as search engines for brands to easily find influencers by looking at key words from your bio. For example, if a brand is looking for Influencers in “San Diego”, they can search that as a keyword, and if “San Diego” is in your bio, you will pop up on their list of potential Influencers. Your bio has a limited amount of characters so everything a brand should know about you needs to fit in there. Maybe it’s time to put your favorite quote as a caption to a photo instead of taking up important space in your bio.

4. Make your feed/content consistent
This piece of advice is one that I’m sure we have all heard a million times. Although it is the most common advice you hear, it is also the most crucial to growing your account and maintaining a “brand friendly” feed. With consistent coloring and photos focused on your niche, brands will know by a simple glance at your feed what YOU are about, if your style matches their style, and exactly what type of content they can expect from you when working together. Here are two examples:


The first one is an example of an inconsistent feed. Yes, maybe the pictures INDIVIDUALLY look great, but as a whole they are kind of all over the place. Is this a food blogger? Photographer? Just someone posting photos with their friends? It doesn’t give the brand a clear image of what they can expect when working together:

The second feed has consistency in coloring from the highlight covers to each photo. The brand will look at this feed and know exactly what style photo they’ll get in return if they choose to work with them

5. Be on-top of your engagement
It is not about numbers anymore. Well actually, let me rephrase that - It’s not about your number of followers anymore. Brands can spot someone who bought fake followers in a heartbeat, they would rather work with someone who has followers who truly believe in them. What they are looking for are Influencers with a 3%+ engagement. What is engagement? Engagement is the percentage of your followers that are engaging with your photos.
For example, if you have 10,000 followers, on average they are looking for a minimum of 300 likes per post (of course the % of engagement varies per brand).

6. BONUS TIP: Reach out to them!
This is my personal favorite. If you want a brand to notice you, it’s okay to kind of “get in their face”. Turn on their post notifications, engage with their posts, buy their products and post photos using them, tag them etc. Just make sure you don’t come across an overly obsessed and attached ex.

With all that being said, we can make our account as “brand friendly” as possible, but after all those tips are applied, why WAIT for brands to reach out to you? Why not reach out to them yourself!?

Next week in my blog I will be posting some tips when it comes to “How to pitch to brands”. This can seem SUPER intimidating, but after applying my tips, you may just get brand deals left and right.

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August, the best month of the year...and I’m not just saying that because of my birthday - okay maybe I am. Last month I posted about my “favorites” from the prior month and a lot of you seemed to find those pretty fun, so why not keep it up!? I've decided to separate my favorites into three categories: food, fashion and fun. Let’s jump right in to my July Favorites!



If you’re ever in Northern San Diego County, this restaurant is a NEED TO TRY. Campfire treats you to the origins of cooking and hospitality by setting everything from the cocktails and plates, to the aesthetic of the overall environment, "authentically campfire". The kitchen is just behind clear windows so you can be entertained by watching your meal be prepared by the talented chefs.
My recommendations?
Server: Ask for Roman, his suggestions and knowledge of the menu and every dish and drink they made was incredible.
Meal: Order their broccoli! I know it sounds so silly, usually i'm not a fan of broccoli either, but in the words of Roman "it will change your view of broccoli" and he's absolutely right!
Dessert: You can't go wrong with the S'mores. Everything is house made and it completes the "campfire experience".



Last month I went to my very first ever Blogger Brunch. At the brunch I met multiple bloggers with similar passions, filled my belly, watched Mama Mia 2 and received lots of love from sponsors, and by love I mean products. I knew ahead of time that I was going to receive a little gift bag with items from sponsors but I had no idea I would fall in love with so many of them. The item that I became obsess with was this cute strapless white top from Eliza J Dresses. It fits like a glove and every time I wear it, people fall in love with it just like I did. I highly recommend if you're looking for a semi-formal summer top, GRAB THIS ADORABLE ONE!
My recommendations?
The items run a little big, normally i'm a small but I ordered a medium and it fits perfectly



Now if you are looking for the perfect place to relax and be treated like royalty, search no more! Bellus Academy is one of the most awarded beauty and wellness institution in the country. They are both a beauty school AND salon/spa with multiple locations in San Diego County. Every interaction I had with staff and students were all positive, going above and beyond my expectations for the day. 
My recommendations?
If you've never had a facial before...oh my goodness you need to experience the greatness! Click here to book a service at the Poway location I went to.


Happy July friends!

Before the craziness of the Fourth of July kicks off tomorrow, I thought I’d look back on last month and share with you some of my absolute favorite items I found myself using the entire month. I’d like to start off by clarifying, this blog is NOT sponsored by any of these companies. All of these items are items I truly love.

Photographer: IG  @johnsperspective

Photographer: IG @johnsperspective

As some of you know, I went on a mini vacation to Mexico for a weekend last month with my wonderful boyfriend, John, and his loving family. Before heading out there I partnered with a few awesome companies to create content for. One of the companies was a little online jewelry shop. I wore the necklaces for the photos our first day there. Then I wore them again with my outfit the 2nd day. Then I came home and found myself wearing them ALL THE FLIPPIN TIME! These two necklaces layered together are now my go-to necklace combo when I need a gold look. You can find these beauties here and use code ‘MILLIE15’ for 15% off:

On the topic of accessories, my next June fav is a must if you love living a colorful life with retro vibes. My Orange Round Rainbow Optx Sunglasses are always a HIT when I wear them in public. I can promise you that if go out wearing them, you will receive compliments left and right. It might take a few seconds for your eyes to adjust when first putting them on since the tone of them is so harshly orange, but they bring a beautiful new perspective to things you’re so used to seeing every day.

Photographer: IG  @by.rob

Photographer: IG @by.rob

Moving on to my Instagram followers favorite item right now, my gray wig. If you saw my IGTV video, you may know that I am starting to wear wigs for photoshoots so I can give my natural hair a chance to grow out and be healthy again. One of the wigs I bought, made everyone go crazy (in a positive excited way) when they saw it on my story, so I thought why not share it with you all!? Originally I wasn’t a fan of the wig because of the curls it came with...they were just not good at all. Then I took the time to sit with it, straighten it, and cut it. Now I wear it ALL THE TIME because it just looks so real. This is where I got mine:


Last but not least, let’s get into a little bit of makeup. Usually my go-to foundation is the Urban Decay All Nighter Waterproof longwear liquid that’s a mouthful. But you know, let’s be real, sometimes money can be tight and we don’t have pocket change of $40-50 to spend on makeup. A foundation that I have been using is the NYX Total Control Drop Foundation in Beige ($14). For me it’s perfect for work AND shoots because you can adjust the coverage by the amount of drops you use! When I’m doing my makeup for work, I do a lighter coverage look vs when I do my makeup for a photoshoot, I do more of a full coverage look and the foundation works great for BOTH! This is where you can get yours:

Hope you guys check out these awesome items. Let me know what some of your favorite products were last month. I'd love to check out some new stuff and maybe it will make it onto my July Favs list!


How to be successful for real


Success. Everyone wants to obtain this amazing idea of 'success'. By the end of this blog post, not only will have learned how to obtain ultimate success in your life, but you'll be able to answer all the questions on the image of this blog, and it's a lot easier than you think!  First, lets start with the basics, we must have an understanding of what ‘success’ is. Let’s check to see what the super handy dandy says:

noun: the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.

Now let’s take a look at, the top result is:

The product of constantly striving for self improvement.

I was talking to a good friend the other day about this very subject because they are not as successful as they would like to be at this point in their life. So we explored this idea of ‘success’.  I think our society has painted a false picture of what success should look like:

- You should have a really nice car and lots of fancy clothes to be successful.
- You should own a large, expensive house to look successful.
- You should be able to go out to dinner in nice restaurants every night so you’ll look successful.
- You should be able to buy whatever you want - all name brands- to feel successful.

Basically if you make a lot of money and you’re filthy rich THEN you have reached success, right? Not necessarily. Did you notice that none of the above definitions mentioned wealth as the destination of success? Success is about setting personal goals and putting effort and purpose into them to achieve them. Maybe one of your goals is related to money. That’s totally okay. But what if we forgot about everything we think we know about success and defined it as our own? I’ll start:

@modernnmilliee’s definition of (suc·cess)

1. The accomplishment of finding joy in every situation and persevering
2. The ability to surround myself with people who make me happy and support me
3. Finding new ways to better myself (mentally, physically, emotionally, etc.)
4. Doing whatever the heck it is that makes me truly happy without caring what others think

Now it’s your turn!

Take some time right now to write in the comments what your definition of success is.